Emotionally Intelligent Communication

All of us are familiar with the defining guidelines ofencourages free flow of ideas. Refrain from
workplace behavior. But when stress takes a tollinterrupting with advice or anecdotes to prove
in the office environment, tempers start to frayyour point till the other person is comfortable.
and many times lead to outbreaks ofIt also helps a lot to focus upon non-verbal cues
‘unprofessional behavior'. This is wherewhile you speak. This can help you choose your
emotionally intelligent communication should comewords and also know when to stop. The
to the forefront.objective here is to be "good company". Be it an
People with high Emotional Intelligence are greatinformal or formal gathering, it is best that you be
communicators. This includes both aspects ofprepared with a list of interesting or specific topics
communication – verbal and non-verbal.that you can put forward in an interesting manner.
Listening with empathy (an EQ competency)Conveying Trust:
defines high EI. Also, possessing the intuitionAt a time when almost 48% of business hours
(another EQ competency) to understand justare unproductive due to the lack of trust, the
when to interject and speak also defines high EI.best thing for an emotionally intelligent person to
Let us look at a short list of importantdo is to convey trust while communicating. This
considerations to be kept in mind while conversing:lowers barriers that may exist in communication,
Intentionality:hence leading to free flow of ideas. This
An important competency of Emotionaleventually leads to resolving of any problems that
Intelligence is Intentionality. You need to talk aboutmay have arisen due to gaps in communication.
something informative, sensible, pleasant andI would like to re-instate that unlike EQ, EI is
non-offensive. You need to constantly ensure tosomething that can be learnt over the years.
develop this skill, as it leaves an indelible mark onAccording to Daniel Goleman in his record breaking
others. Ensure that you know what you have tobestseller, ‘Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can
say beforehand. This adds credibility to yourMatter More Than IQ', EQ amounts to 25% of
thoughts and can even help steer the course ofsuccesses in leadership as opposed to IQ. By
the conversation in the direction you desire.learning the art of emotionally intelligent
Focus:conversation, it is possible to take a step nearer
Focus is important to build a business relationship,towards achieving a state of self actualization in
as it involves giving your undivided attention towork and personal relationships.
the other person/s. It puts them at ease and