The Art of Giving a Toast

Today one of my clients is throwing one of heryou admire them?
good friends a 40th birthday party. She actuallyAfter you've put together your toast it should
used to date him and now they're good friends.look something like this:
She has the perfect dress, has supplied the"Welcome to the 40th Birthday party for our
beautiful country club for the party and now shefriend Clyde. It's great to see everyone here. For
was considering whether or not she should alsothose who know Clyde, you'll know that he is a
give a host!determined, fun and successful individual. But there
My answer to her? ALWAYS give a toast if youis something that you might NOT know about
can!!!Clyde!!
First of all, whoever is throwing the party has aTell funny or poignant story here.... And when the
responsibility of welcoming people to the event.laughter dies down..
It's nice to publicly introduce yourself and"So tonight, we wish to honor you Clyde, for who
welcome everyone. It also establishes youryou are to all of us. We appreciate you, we love
credibility when you speak in front of peopleyou and we wish for you many more happy and
Next, it's an opportunity to show off! Whenhealthy years to come."
people see you completely composed in aThe story that you tell is extremely important.
somewhat stressful situation, they're impressed.But even MORE important is how often you
Little do they know how much preparation whenpractice this speech! Practice it in front of the
on behind the scenes. You can make it look likemirror dozens of times until the words role off
you pulled the toast out of thin air!your tongue gracefully. Tape yourself as you
When writing a toast, there are a few things topractice and rewrite it as you go along. Practice
do that will make your job easier.visualizing yourself in the room beforehand, and
How do you want to come across? Do you wantpractice looking at people in the eyes so during
the toast to be fun, lighthearted and funny or doyour speech you'll be able to do that with ease.
you want it serious? This will help you determineDuring the last part, when you're bringing honor to
the "story" that you share during the toast.the person, look at that person RIGHT in the
How do you feel about the person? What doeyeballs with as much sincerity as you can
they mean to other people? How do peoplemuster up, to let them know that you genuinely
respond to them as individuals? Are they funny,do care.
articulate, smart, a great dresser or a terrificIf you do all of these things, you'll blow the people
story teller? Be specific and write down all of theaway. The response you'll get is "wow, I wish I
adjectives that you can to describe this person.could just pull something like this out of my hat"
What is a funny story or a really great story thatand "that was such a great toast... good job".
you can tell about this person? Is there someNo one has to know that you practiced over and
secret passion that this person has that causesover until it felt right. No one has to know that
them to spend excessive time on something?you changed the toast dozens of times until you
Was there a time that the two of you weregot the story right. But what you and everyone
together that impressed you or made you laugh?else WILL know is that after you've given the
What story can you think of that EXPLAINS whatspeech and knocked it out of the park, your
this person is to you? This can be lighthearted orstatus will be elevated.
serious, depending upon the tone that you wantBy presenting an incredible toast you will have
to create in the room and with the toast.created a great memory for the person you are
Lastly, what does this person mean to YOU? Dohonoring. And THAT is who its all about, after all!
you want to honor them? Do you love them? Do